To Oblige or To Refuse
In our society in a developing country, how open are we towards certain changes in our lives? I refer to the female community in our country on how much we have evolved. Are we as submissive as what is deemed or we have un-shelled and are now moving on to a new era of becoming braver and stronger in fighting for ourselves?
Sometimes I wonder if this plays a direct change in shaping the way we think and therefore the way we behave or react in particularly dire situation like foreseeing or more accurately, experiencing a crack in our relationship. It was quite an interesting find to see how the babes in the forum debated about whether to allow the husbands to take in a second wife. And so when we assume that the female group in Malaysia are still quite conservative about family values, it is more astounding to observe such big number of women who are against the idea of having a second wife with no acceptance of any reasons or pleas behind that move. Some popped very realistic questions like having children in that picture, drawing further that it is all the more difficult for the first wife to react to what the majority voted for, which is to file for a divorce.
Being caught in such situation, should we play up to our maternal instinct which is to sacrifice in order to provide the children with a complete family, i.e.: a dad, a mom and the children or to fight against all odds to preserve the final dignity for ourselves and the children. Well, I don’t deny that the reason to take in a second wife could derived from many other unspoken tales or obligations, but to take into the extreme account of this situation, how would you react? Don’t forget that Florence Nightingale fought against all odds to do something for the society despite being pressured due to her gender status at that time. So will such change in a family bring better life and hope for the future? Join the debate or discussion here.
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November 14th, 2008 11:22
Wife can have one but gf can have 20, thats show
the man is capable, u should watch back the Hongkong series File of Justice.
November 22nd, 2008 16:04
hmmmm…. i for one am glad i’m not a muslim (no hard feelings!). don’t have to go through that phase when my hubby wants to marry again.can’t even think sharing the same man with another woman. urgghh!!!