You see the single ladies and men might be snorting at the thought and trying really hard to emphatise with people who are desperately looking for something new this year to surprise the girlfriend or boyfriend, wife or husband. Frankly, this is also one of the best time of the year for the singles to hang out a group of single and hot friends while the couples can only watch the fun that you will be having. Ah! Sceptical.

Anyway, I should stop being bitchy about this topic. In fact, I am writing today to suggest some good stuff for men especially. Well these are some suggestions on what you can do on the 14th of Feb. Girlfriends, if you read this and love some of my ideas, you can pretend to leave this page on his laptop so he can have a good read Just ensure he doesn’t see this paragraph of my sly, cunning move

Well…Valentine O Valentine! Women are creatures who couldn’t make up their mind, not all but most of us especially when it is for pleasure. I mean why do we need to crack our brains for something that is meant to be pleasureable? We just want to be pampered, need the attention, want some good laugh – not old, lame jokes though. So, although this Valentine is not really in a good time with the impact of the economic crisis – it’s good to just make it simple yet astonishingly romantic.

However, for those who are not affected by the economic crisis and are still doing very well, in fact a lot better, you can do the following:

A first class holiday to any first class destination ….

Hot Air Balloon with a bottle of champagne Bollinger…

An.. all-you-can-shop-or-spend day with your cards or cash – whichever you prefer..

A day of spa and beauty treatments for her and her girlfriends Well if you would like to be pampered, you can have a couple session too…even better!

A star-gazing experience with your coolest gadget or in your convertible sports car…both are equally fine…

Or engage a small airplane to write these words to express your extravagant love for her….
Well well….for you who prefer a simpler version of Valentine’s and wouldn’t want to donate any unnecessary extra coins to the marketers, here’s what you can consider…

A good body massage….if you have coarse skin, slap on more moisturiser on your hands a couple of nights before the massage night…it works wonders

Or whip up a good meal…..time to check the recipe book…

Make your own cocktails ..the easiest is vodka+cranberry juice – slurpilicious…

No, no…I’m not suggesting you to engage Mr Buble for a night melodic performance but well you can interpret it as —- to get ready with such pose..who wouldn’t fall for such a hug? I know I definitely will…

Or you can turn on some good romantic or jazzy music to heighten the romance of the night…have a good slow dance and spend a lovely evening together…

Valentine’s Day is just another day and it is important to have romance and sparks every now and then, not just once a year otherwise, the relationship is just mundane, dreadful and boring until someone appears…a dinkum advice

Wishing everyone a lovely day every day…have a good Valentine’s too ….

signing off..

LOL – I mean Lots Of Love….

Sometimes I wonder if this plays a direct change in shaping the way we think and therefore the way we behave or react in particularly dire situation like foreseeing or more accurately, experiencing a crack in our relationship. It was quite an interesting find to see how the babes in the forum debated about whether to allow the husbands to take in a second wife. And so when we assume that the female group in Malaysia are still quite conservative about family values, it is more astounding to observe such big number of women who are against the idea of having a second wife with no acceptance of any reasons or pleas behind that move. Some popped very realistic questions like having children in that picture, drawing further that it is all the more difficult for the first wife to react to what the majority voted for, which is to file for a divorce.

Being caught in such situation, should we play up to our maternal instinct which is to sacrifice in order to provide the children with a complete family, i.e.: a dad, a mom and the children or to fight against all odds to preserve the final dignity for ourselves and the children. Well, I don’t deny that the reason to take in a second wife could derived from many other unspoken tales or obligations, but to take into the extreme account of this situation, how would you react? Don’t forget that Florence Nightingale fought against all odds to do something for the society despite being pressured due to her gender status at that time. So will such change in a family bring better life and hope for the future? Join the debate or discussion here.

You may have heard people telling you the importance of listening, as it being the gist of a relationship. This is basic. You would have heard the saying that pride kills. This is true and it is the base of all as well. How is that so?

I know someone who is married for two years after a long eight-year courtship. There were problems before they made the vow but they went ahead with the wedding plans. Then more problems arise or I would say the recurring incidences. The wife is unhappy, the husband is upset. They stopped communicating but only talk to each other when it is necessary. What happened to their bonding? Or the feelings for each other after almost 10 years spending with each other?

I spoke to the wife one day and she revealed more bitterness from her side. And it so happened the husband called her on the phone. Instead of the cheery mood she was in after she has calmed down, her tone of voice turned lower and the words she chose to use during the phone call were direct and brief. Her body language was rigid, frowned eyebrow, and annoyed expression from her face. After she put down the phone, she was back in her cheery or I should say, chirpy mood again.

This made me think for a while why a couple could not work out a relationship just by abiding to the basic rules; first to let go of the ego and second to listen.

Sadly, it is countless to note that people would rather hold up to their pride and protect their ego than to listen to the main ideas of what is being communicated during a conflict, misunderstandings or arguments. It is so natural for most to just dive into that sea of arrogance and biting on the fact that who should be blamed and who is at fault. With this mindset or judgment, no better words could be made understood to them because they are listening with a tint, the layer of jusgment which is passed before it is heard. And when this happen, how genuine could one understand the other?   

If you happen to be trapped in such situation, it is good to try the above rules, let go of your ego and listen. Ask yourself which is more important to you, your pride or the relationship?